R. Why do you think you were angry?
E. I don’t really know. You know I sent that email, and you said ‘thank you for writing’? Well, I figured, there’s no way you were pleased I wrote you. It was the end of your week, you work hard, you’d tried to help everyone, the last thing you probably wanted to do was read some client’s email.
R. Why then do you think I said that?
E. Like ‘Have a nice day.’
R. You think I was being sarcastic?
E. Not sarcastic, exactly.
R. I actually thought you were feeling bad, so you wrote trying to shift that, which is a good thing to do.
I can see what Ron is saying, and figure it’s probably true. This could be another example of my attributing bad feelings about me to him which he doesn’t actually have. I know I do that a lot.
Ron is not fantastic with emails. He mostly doesn’t respond to the content, unless it’s specifically about him. This email had thoughts about the session, mostly where I felt differently from what he’d said. So he didn’t reply to that.
On the other hand, I’ve told him I need a response, and he responds pretty faithfully. With a few painful exceptions. I’m pretty sure he reads what I write too, because he sometimes mentions them in session. And it’s true that just writing out how I feel and mailing it off to Ron provides some relief.
At the moment, I’m OK with how we stand on emails.
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